The biggest shock that you can ever have in your life is to discover that you have married a total stranger.
There is no dearth of suffering spouses today, who didn’t discuss issues of mutual concern, before jumping in to tie the knot.
The obvious differences that seemed sweet and exotic in the beginning turned out to be jarring after marriage.
Marred by differences, the entire marital relationship now seems a scam, you never bargained for.
Post Marriage Revelations
Do you really think that your spouse’s political leanings could have a serious bearing on your marital life? Did you know that the financial ideas of your spouse could affect your spending habits?
Did you know that your religious differences with your spouse could turn your marital landscape into a scene of domestic crusades?
Did you ever imagine that your spouse’s views pertaining to environment and global warming can alter your personal life for ever?
Well, my marital life is the perfect example of the havoc that such ignorance can cause in a marriage.
It is not that I was totally unaware of my wife’s radical views concerning the environment, animal rights, economics and religion. However, blinded by love and attraction, I genuinely felt that she adhered to such ideals more out of a desire to seem contemporary and savvy. I believed that since she loved me she was just like me. However things were not as predictable as that, as I soon discovered.
Religious Differences
The biggest surprise that I got after my marriage was to learn that my wife was a hardcore atheist. She confessed that she avoided telling it to me before marriage because she was afraid that it may turn me off considering my devout beliefs.
Now the way we comprehend things is often very different. While I look for wonder and mystery even in leaves of grass, she believes that even the very creation of this universe is scientifically explainable.
Earlier I used to get irritated by her razor sharp logic. However, now we find this ideological diversity in our relationship to be unique and interesting. We know that things may get problematic once we have children.
In fact we have already started working on the issues that may arise in such a scenario.
Food Habits Die Hard
I knew that my would-be spouse was an animal rights activist, but I never knew that this would drastically influence my dietary preferences after marriage. Now, all meat and poultry products have been banished from our household menu and the only forms of animal proteins allowed are unfertilized eggs and dairy products.
As a compensatory gesture, she allows me to relish a non-veg dish or two when we go out to eat. Though I have desperately tried to convince her with sermons on the role of non-vegetarianism in maintaining an ecological balance, I know that I will be a spinach eater for the rest of my life.
Earthly Pursuits
You cannot imagine the hardships involved in marrying a Green Peace activist. From day one, she started finding faults with my consumption patterns.
My seemingly innocent habits like being liberal with the use of paper, forgetting to switch off the lights, leaving the electrical gadgets turned on, forgetting to turn off the water taps were dubbed as heinous crimes against nature.
Every new thing I bought was scrutinized on the basis of the amount of carbon dioxide released while manufacturing it. Things have gone so unbearable that now I am being coaxed to sell my motorbike, the only souvenir of my bachelor days, for a battery run cycle.
Money, Money, Money
The next and the most expected area of onslaught was my financial profligacy. Being an astute financial planner with a knack for making profitable investments in stocks and real estate, she came down ruthlessly on my spendthrift life style.
Finally I had to settle for pocket money in return for allowing her to manage all my hard earned money. Considering the returns we are getting, I know that I am going to have a blasphemously lavish retirement. Still, I miss my happy go lucky days of yore.
My intense desire to dethrone this beautiful tyrant is only restrained by my unfathomable love for her. I know that my days of freedom and unbridled spirit are gone for ever. So, I emphatically advice all my readers to question the fundamental beliefs of their partner before getting married. What is at stake is your entire life.
James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you want to find out more about a solicitor managed divorce see http://www.managed-divorce.co.uk
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