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Articles » Society » Divorce » A Step-By-Step Guide to Surviving Divorce
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- Date Contributed: Dec 22, 2007
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| A Step-By-Step Guide to Surviving Divorce |
Life undergoes drastic changes post divorce. One has to get used to life as a single person. It involves shifting houses, changed or new jobs, some friends left behind, children brought up single handedly, besides dealing with the depression and guilt resulting from divorce.
There are some other problems too, more typical of women. Usually in families it is the men who are in charge of the finances. So after divorce women have to educate themselves regarding the financial issue like investments, bills loan payments, insurance and so on.
Money, finance, children’s responsibility, finding a job all become a problem to be dealt with alone. Women often find it hard to cope with divorce whether they asked for it or not. To deal successfully it is important to separate emotions from logic and contemplate the plan of action seriously. It is a difficult situation to deal with but not an impossible one. Here are some things you should do:
1. Finish All the Paperwork: Including bank accounts, ownership, dependents and beneficiaries, joint accounts, credit cards and tax. Also, an account needs to be set up for maintenance and child support payments and all the paperwork properly filed.
2. Look For a New House: Rent or buy an apartment keeping your budget, your office location, children’s school and the homes of your close family and friends in mind. Take the help of your friends and family to move whether it is looking after your kids, transportation and so on.
3. Financial Matters: Women mostly see a sharp drop in their standard of living after divorce. Assess your resources and future expenses and make a budget. Seek professional advice if the need be. Calculate your expenses against the alimony and child support you will get and look for a job that will not only allow you to earn well but will leave you with sufficient time be with your children.
4. Take Care of the Children: You might be in need of help yourself but your children need to be your priority. They will act up, show signs of depression and all. You have to be there for them to share their problems, help them cope better and get used to the new way of living which will involve an absent parent , probably a change of school and alienated friends.
5. Dealing with Emotional Issues: Life after divorce can be very stressful for you and the children. Seek professional counselling to help you and the children with the emotional distress all of you feel after the divorce. It will help you deal with your emotions, revisit your past, analyse it, learn your lessons and leave it behind to move on without any baggage.
6. Form Your Support Group: As a single parent you will need to have a support group of people close to you like friends and family to share your burden and help you carry on. Seek their active help in anything like babysitting, finance or just as a sounding board to your problems.
7. Reinvent Yourself: This is the time to look inside and rediscover yourself, your dreams and your capabilities. Enroll for a course that will help increase your professional qualification, indulge in a new hobby you have always wanted to do, join a support group of like minded people. This will give you new confidence in yourself and help fight loneliness.
8. Form A Team With Your Children: Treat your children like adults and involve them in discussions involving your daily life. Respect their ideas, take joint decisions acceptable to all and seek their help in sharing your work at home. This lends a sense of empowerment and a sense of belonging to the children and they do not feel as lost.
9. New Relationships: First make sure you are over your past for good. Do not enter into any relationship on a rebound. Start meeting people as friends with an open mind and enter the dating scene once you are convinced that you are ready. Do not involve the children to any new partner till you are sure of the relationship yourself.
Surviving divorce is a difficult thing but it can be better accomplished if you plan, reflect, think, and execute based on your own goals and needs. Make sure your children feel that they come from a single parent family rather than a broken family.
James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you would like more information on how to get a quickie Divorce see http://www.quickie-divorce.com
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