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Articles » Society » Divorce » Myths of Divorce
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- Date Contributed: Dec 02, 2007
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| Myths of Divorce |
Of course, there always is a seed of truth to myths which get generated, but people usually don’t account for changing times and environment.
Men Cheat More Than Women
The number one propagated myth where relationships are concerned is, probably, that men cheat more than women. Perhaps if one went strictly by statistics, this may be true. However, it is mostly because, over the years, men have had more opportunity and financial power to indulge in their pursuits. Women have been too dependent economically to even consider straying, unless the attraction was overwhelming.
With modern women emerging with equally flourishing career, ironically, their patterns of behaviour seem to be copying men. Today, what’s good for the goose seems to be good for the gander. Women travel and socialise because of their work and meet and engage with members of the opposite gender. One thing leads to another and marital vows are temporarily forgotten. While the number of men cheating on their women may be still ahead, women are not too far behind.
Women Reluctant to Divorce
It is a commonly held view that women are reluctant to divorce. It would perhaps be more correct to say that women do not give up on their marriages easily. They like to make every effort to ensure that their marriages work. However, if after having done everything possible, the marriage is still troubled, they are quite capable of calling it quits.
Men, on the other hand, are probably less inclined to divorce though they want to work less at making the marriage work. They are perhaps more creatures of habit than women. A man could have an affair and still want his marriage to go on. A woman, on the other hand, is probably more likely to walk out if she falls in love with someone else.
If a divorce comes from out of the blue, a woman will probably be more devastated as she didn’t have any inkling or the chance to work out issues. If, on the other hand, the troubles have been long-drawn and a woman has tried everything, she has the strength to get divorced and move on. A man in such a situation feels bereft as he possibly took for granted that his spouse would endlessly make compromises.
Women Make Better Parents
Women have always been bestowed with the role of nurturers and, given their biological makeup, this is true. To add to this, men have typically been the bread-winners, while women have looked after home and hearth. The role of women being ‘child bearers’, remains, but it is no longer true that only men are bread-winners. Modern men and women are equal partners in every sense. Since both contribute financially in a marriage, they also share other responsibilities equally.
Men, today, are more hands-on parents than ever before. They take an active part in every aspect of children’s upbringing. Therefore, to make a categorical statement that women make better parents or care for children more will not be entirely true. By default, women probably make better parents and are more attached to the children but with time and experience, men too make equally committed parents.
Each person is different and it is convenient to slot people based on their gender. The whole ‘Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus’ thought process, does not give credit to people’s individual personalities and experiences. A person can be a great parent or an awful one whether he or she is a man or woman. Age-old stereotypes do not hold in the modern scheme of things.
Conclusion
A few myths about men and women, in the context of marriage, have been discussed. The institution of marriage itself is under threat from changing norms and social beliefs. In this changing scenario, it is difficult to make generalised statements. The modern way of life allows people to define themselves, in ways not restricted to being male or female alone. Therefore, it wouldn’t be too wrong to say that old myths have to give way to new facts.
James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you want to find out more about a solicitor managed divorce see http://www.managed-divorce.co.uk
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