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Many people feel that the end of the world is imminent after they have been dumped. They very often ask themselves: "How will I ever survive?" Sadly, we know that these words in an article will not offer you much comfort. But trust me - even though you have broken up, and even though you may feel broken down, you are not and will not be a broken person.
When they are in the unpleasant position of "being dumped," most people have two fears. The first is that they will never recover from the pain. The second is that no one will ever love them again.
Have you thought that?
Listen, my friend: oh yes, the pain feels real. And to some extent you may feel that it will be permanent. But it is not a physical pain like breaking a leg - that really hurts here and now. The pain of being dumped is in the head ... It's not in the real world of muscles and bones. Now I know that saying "this pain is not in the real world" offers you little consolation. But the fact is, it does mean that getting over a break-up is far easer than getting over a broken leg.
Yes! it is true that one part of your life may be over, but your life is not over. If you can see it in another way, you can heal faster. In some respects a new door of life has just opened for you. And believe it or not, you are still strong in other ways. And can get stronger.
You still have the most important thing: You. And, of course, there are friends and family who care about you. Sometimes, when you get into a romantic relationship, you can lose touch with the other people that also love you and have meaning to you. "Being dumped" can actually give you the space, time and opportunity to reconnect with them.
And confiding your losses to friends and family may encourage them to share their break-up experiences with you. When you say, "he or she dumped me," you allow friends and relatives to recall the times they have been dumped and how they've been hurt. You can begin to see that although your pain is your own, it is not unique but in fact it is part of being human. Being dumped did not kill them and it won't kill you. They all recovered and in some way became stronger and, in most cases, wiser people.
As well as having more time for others who you care about, you will have more time to work on other issues in your life. Many times, when you are in a relationship, other activities you once cared about get put aside (especially if your partner showed no interest in them.) After a break-up is a great time to get involved in other areas of life that matter to you.
If you didn't participate in other activities before you met your ex, then this is definitely a good time to look at getting a hobby or other interests to enhance and expand your life! One of the major factors that make being dumped so very painful is the loss of self esteem and a feeling of worthlessness. When you take up a new activity and invest in yourself, you prove to yourself that you matter. (And you prove it to other people too -- including your ex. Nothing produces respect like self-respect!)
There are all kinds of activities - physical, artistic or academical - that you can get involved in after being dumped. For example, I got involved in "pot-holing" and many years later I am still an active pot-holer. The best thing to do is to join a group, class, or workshop. For instance, joining a walking or hiking club will let you meet lots of people who enjoy the great outdoors, and you will benefit mentally as well as physically from the space and exercise. A dancing class will introduce you to people who enjoy some of the finer things in life! How about a writer's workshop, or a sculpture class. In the arts, you can turn your emotional frustration to your advantage by using as 'creative raw material'. The list is endless.
As you begin to move on and explore more avenues in the world, the sense of desperation you felt when he dumped you will give way to new horizons. New friends who share a common interest will be made. And, you will probably meet someone special to spend your time and share your new interests with.
The fact is, regardless how you feel now you will find someone else to date ... who makes you feel wonderful again. For every broken heart in this world there is always one waiting to be healed. Your love is out there, waiting to be found.
Look at it this way! Your ex may have done you a favor by breaking up with you because now you have a chance to find someone who fits you better.
And, always remember, the best revenge when "he dumped me" is moving on!For more information on "how to move on" visit http://www.howtogetmyexback.net/winbackyourex.html
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